Veretekk Unleashed

Veretekk Unleashed

You Need a Mastermind Group Not a Self Proclaimed Mentor

Beware of the Mentor with the Inflated Ego

When I started out, I found a Mentor, that I stuck with for
about 4 years. I was part of a mastermind group, but the
majority of people in it were not as far as long in their skill
development as I was. I did learn by helping them, but
I was hungry for success. My mentor was skilled in some
areas, but in reality, I was teaching him more than he was
teaching me. He was making more money, but it was at
my expense. I was training HIS downline. He turned out to
be an egomaniac, and although I did know that all along
deep down, I felt a sense of loyalty that kept me hanging in
there. It took me that long to develop my own "marketing
personality" and cut the ties that bound me. Without a word
of exaggeration, the very next day, I started making money.

That is an experience that I needed to go through in my
personal development. That negative influence that really
prevented me from progressing was something that taught
me more than I could have ever learned from any college
course, program or self help book. When I failed to follow
his lead, not so much because I thought the business decision
was wrong, but more because of the way he went about
attempting to force his influence - again in his own interests,
he turned on me. It was the single best thing that could have
happened to me.

His greed and his inflated ego (really masked insecurity)
cost him a great deal, and brought me a good deal of
enlightenment. It cost him in terms of hard cold cash.
I gave that some serious thought... and again learned a
valuable lesson. I examined that relationship, and my
part in it - I thought about his actions and came to the
realization that if HE had done some introspection, if he
had actually done some work on developing himself,
rather than just being out for the buck and the praise,
he would probably be a very wealthy man.

When I heard that he was taking credit for my success, I
learned more. At first I was angry. How dare he... but again,
I learned from it. I realized how far I had come, that I was now
able to "see through" his presentation and I learned some
valuable lessons. Much of what not to do, much about what
greed and the need for praise and recognition can cost.

One of those being that nobody can every take credit, or blame
for that matter, for another person's success or failure. In my case,
I became successful IN SPITE OF the years "wasted" teaching my
mentor's downline. Whether he taught me anything or not, is quite
irrelevent. It was I who did the work. It was I who spent the time in
live training sessions. It was I who made the decision to spend
4 years with a mastermind group that did not provide as much
benefit to me as another may have. I am responsible for my
own success, my own mistakes, and my own failures.

The moral of that story is to be aware. Listen to your gut. Take
responsibility for your decisions, both good and bad. Watch
the people you are working with. Are they genuine? Do they
really have your best interests at heart? If you are in a one
sided relationship - where you are either all giver or all taker,
you need to evaluate the health of that relationship. Failing to
do so will not be catastrophic, but it will slow your progress.
Make every experience a learning opportunity and even your
failures and bad decisions will be successes.